You Think It I'll Say It: The Art of Courtship...

World English Dictionary defines "Courtship" as...
1. the act, period, or art of seeking the love of someone with intent to marry.

Often people confuse courting with dating, when actually dating is an important part of the courting period. One of the biggest distinctions between the two is their purpose.

The purpose of dating is simply to "get to know" someone in order to gather enough information to decide if you would like to court them.

The purpose of courting is to "exclusively" date someone, with the intent to marry.

When you meet a "potential life mate" and begin the process of "getting to know them", what kind of things do you like to find out?

• What are your likes and dislikes?
• What are you looking for?
• Are you in a relationship?
• What is your favorite food?
• etc.

There are any number of question combinations you can use to help you in your decision making process. I have broken it down into three categories. Past, present, and future.

The Past. Questions in this category should help you to understand where a person has come from. Please be sure to hesitate from making decisions from this section alone. Many people have had a troubled past that has made them the success they are today. Others have had a great past and are going through present struggles. So be UNDERSTANDING.

The Present. This category can be a very interesting, fun, and informative set of questions. This line of conversation should help you understand where a person is "currently". "What things do you like, love, dislike, hate, and are interested in, TODAY."

The Future. This is the category of HOPE. Many times you'll see a person's eyes light up when answering or asking questions in this category. Pay close attention to this portion of the conversation, because this will help you figure out if a person's future, may or may not line up with yours!

IMPORTANT: Don't be afraid to take notes and actually write things down. Not many people actually do this, but the same way we would take notes while in a class in school, we can also refer back to and study our mates.

In my opinion, all three categories should be thoroughly covered during the dating phase. Once you've accomplished that and have decided, after a specific period of time, that you would like to pursue something more serious, then the real work begins. Some work is fun though, right? Especially, if you LOVE it!

The courtship phase is a very serious phase as far as importance, but can be as fun as you and your partner make it. Keep in mind one thing while going through this growth process.

• Why are we doing this?

The goal is most likely to marry the person you are in a relationship with or at the very least build a long lasting and loving relationship that will last you well into your Golden Years.

While going through this phase, relationship polishing should be taking place. You both should have such a great understanding of one another, that you are only perfecting things you've aleady learned and had a good amount of practice with.

If you are having an unusually large amount of conflict in this area I suggest, firstly, returning back to the dating phase. This may allow you to remember WHO a person is, was, and is trying to be. Next, I always suggest relationship counseling, and just like a doctor, there are plenty of choices out there, so if certain counselors don't work for you and your mate, SWITCH.

It's your relationship health that's at stake, so do what's in your best interest, as a couple.

A strong foundation, you'll find, can be one of the greatest assets to building a strong, long lasting, healthy, loving, and fun relationship.

You Think It I'll Say It: When Practice Is Not Like The Game...

If you spend 6 years training to play professional tennis, and when it comes game time, the dimensions of the tennis court have changed...That could present a big problem.

The change in rules/regulations could drastically change your perception of the game. Also, changing not only your performance, but also HOW you are being judged.

The same concept applies to relationships, when transitioning from friends to dating, from dating to engaged, and engaged to married.

Now, I believe that there is a natural elevation in responsibilities and expectations, BUT they should be very, very similar to each previous relationship stage, IF honest progression expectations were given.

Things that I believe should just about stay the same, from Friendship to Marriage.

1. Respect. How you are treated and spoken to should be established from friendship. If they disrespect you in the friend stage, I am not sure how much better that will become overtime, without you stopping that dead in it's tracks and communicating your concerns.
2. Affection. The amount of affection you desire, should also be established early on. If you are very affectionate, most times, that need doesn't decrease, but may increase as the relationship grows more serious and you all learn more about each other.
3. Family Interaction. How a person interacts with your family is very important. Now, there is always a chance that those relationships could change, but many times, that's based on how much you tell them. (That is a personal decision)
4. Money Management. This is a very important one! Poor money managers CAN change, but guess what it takes? You guessed it. A change in how they manage it. I know it sounds redundant, but if they have acknowledged the problem and are taking serious steps to change it, let them know you appreciate it. THAT LADIES AND GENTS IS A DRIVEN AND DETERMINED PERSON WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES FOR SUCCESS.
5. Social Activities. Does your friend and potential mate like clubbing, bars, plays, book stores, sports events, shopping, spending time online, spending time with friends or family? Most times, it takes an ACT OF GOD to change a person's likes or dislikes socially, or sometimes priorities change, but try not to bank on this changing too much.
6. Religious Beliefs. Church, church and participation, no church. A person definitely has the potential to grow greatly in the realm of religion and practices, but as far as assuming they will, or assuming they will change religions for you...Don't assume that. When we grow up in a certain religion, changing has huge ramifications.
7. Personality Type. This is a BIG one. Many times a person's sense of humor, outgoing or introverted nature, friendliness, work ethic, etc., don't change too much! I would have included confidence, but I have seen really, apprehensive people become very secure and confident.
8. Cleanliness. I am not sure how much consistently cleaner, people become overtime, but this is a lot of times, what you see, is what you get. Never count it out though. It may change.
9. Romance/Thoughtfulness. I haven't seen this change too much. Many times thoughtful people don't become unthoughtful and unthoughtful people don't often become thoughtful, without work, work, work! Don't expect a non-romantic person to become Mr or Mrs. Romance after marriage.

Things that I believe, maybe shouldn't, but do change over time, from Friendship to Marriage.

1. Opposite Sex Friendships. In some cases, this number may be expected to decrease exponential over time, the closer you get to marriage.
2. Privacy. This is a biggie. Very important to discuss along the way. Can mail be opened? Can phones/emails be checked/answers? Should passwords be given? There is ABSOLUTELY, no wrong or right answer, but definitely worth discussing.
3. Curfew. I have seen this be a big issue. Please Please Please discuss throughout your relationship. A lot of people view it as respect and a lot look at it as, "I haven't had a curfew since high school..."

Clear, consistent, and concise communication throughout every level of your relationship, may be just what you need to reach that 60 year, Diamond anniversary!

Just An Everyday Fantasy: Sesenta y Nueve (Part 3)...

“I can’t believe you…” You think to yourself. “Now, here I am tired, still wet, horny, and now hungry as hell.”

Which is funny, because you never felt hungry during sex. Maybe that’s because the body has an interesting way of shutting other bodily functions down while having sex. Somehow you don’t seem to cough, sneeze, or anything else when you and I make love…

But now back to the subject.

“Now that I think about it, this boy has been damn near “mind fucking” me all day long and I haven’t eaten since…”

KNOCK! KNOCK! KNOCK!

“Room service.”

“I didn’t order any room service,” is all you can muster as you lay relaxed on the couch, still wearing your tattered clothes from earlier’s escapades. Then you think to yourself, “I bet this is more of his craziness.”

So without giving it a second thought, you jump up, throwing on a robe for coverage and race to the door hoping they hadn’t left yet.

"Hi. I'm sorry for the wait. I had to get dressed. How can I help you?"

"Just delivering your order, ma'am. Can you sign here?"

You pull off the sterling silver cover and damn near pass out from the appetizing aroma hitting your face.
Fried chicken, steak, pork chops baked potato, greens, macaroni and cheese, rolls, and salad.

It's time to eat! You go to work, devouring as much as your stomach would allow.

45 minutes later, you sluggishly wake up and drag your feet to the restroom to take a long hot shower. After a quick shower and lotion up you get dressed and sit on the couch trying to figure out what you are supposed to do now.

"Ring, ring ring...."

"Who could be calling me at this number? No one knows I'm here."

You answer the phone after a couple more rings. "Hello." "Yes, ma'am this is the front desk; your car is downstairs waiting for you. I must say, it's gorgeous!"

"Thank you, but I haven't called down to valet to have my car brought up yet. There must be some mistake."

"Ma'am we received a phone call just a couple minutes ago, requesting that the vehicle for this room be brought up as soon as possible." "The caller mentioned that you would be needing to get home, due to a leaky faucet on hard wood, something like that. We were confused as well."

"He is so nasty," you think to yourself, as you gather your things and make your way down stairs.

As you drive 450 miles per hour back home, thoughts run through your head. You've never had a day like this before. It feels good to feel appreciated and cared about and loved and lusted after. "He is going to get it when I get home."

"I'm calling him. I don't care what he says!"

"Hey Sweetie, how are you? I should be leaving work shortly."

"Oh really? So you've been hard at work all day?"

"Yes, why do you ask? Oh, well we did have a small leak this evening, that very quickly turned into a much larger one. I tried contacting maintenance, but until they arrived I ended up plugging the hole myself. It was a deep hole, but I managed."

"I'm sure you did..." When are you coming home?"

"I just have a couple more things to finish, then I'll be on my way."

"Did you want me to start dinner? Since I'll get home before you get off?" "Honey! Baby, you there?"

"Uh...yeah."

"Yeah, what?"

"What are you wearing?"

"That's random. Why do you ask?"

"Well since I always leave before you, I wasn't sure what you wore. So tell me."

"Well, I am wearing my grey pencil skirt, white ruffled blouse, red belt and red heels." "Happy now?"

"Are you not wearing any panties?"

"Well I was, but I had to take them off. They got damaged, or do you not know anything about that either?"

"Damaged how? Flooding?"

"Ha ha. Very funny." "What are you doing, because it doesn't sound like work?"

Brief pause and moan.

"Uh nothing, just talking to you."

"Is he hard? It sounds like he is."

"Yes, just a little."

"A little, huh? I know what that means." "That means you wish I was at work with you right now, helping you stroke it, don't you?"

"Maybe."

"Well, just so you know, I am touching her right now and she is really wet. She's been wet all day! Her lips are open and she is basically perspiring with her juices dripping down each lip, like sweat running down each side of your face." "Wait a minute! You are not about to make me cum in this damn car, I am almost home."

"Since you are almost home, why don't you come upstairs and help me?"

"WTF, I thought you were at work?"

"I am at working and working very hard too!"

You arrive at the house and pull into the garage, almost leaving the car running while trying to get out and see what surprise you've been waiting to finish off all day long.

As you open the door to the kitchen, you are quickly greeted, by a naked hug. A hug so tight, I lift your body off the ground in excitement. With the door still open, I forcefully push you back into the garage, forcing you backwards and onto the hood of the car, all while still passionately kissing you.



You let out a slight moan as the warm air hits your exposed clitoris, sending a deep tingling sensation through your body and causing your open legs to shiver in reaction.

She puckers her moist, wet, and waiting lips, as if to say, "French Kiss Me!" Being the good, subliminal direction following man I am, I go right under your skirt and begin.

I use my thumbs to spread your lips open. Then I slowly insert my tongue into the entry way to your vagina, which is already wet from my aggressive seduction. You clinch as you try your best to relax. You can't help it as she leaks small tear drops down your butt cheeks. I go as far in as I can, as you grab my shoulders in pleasure filled grips. Then pulling my tongue out, almost completely until only the tip is left inserted, I stroke northward, gathering your juices along the way up through the waterfall of your pussy until I get to your clit. She is now pulsating in arousal and satisfaction. I pucker my cream soaked lips and kiss her. Not like a simple peck, but in such a way that causes you to reminisce about a time when I sucked both of your nipples the same way.

As you look down at the top of my head bouncing up and down on your clit, your eyes roll back and your head drops as you whisper, in a quivering voice, "Shiiiiittttt".

Wow, I can taste her pushing juices out of the opening like a reverse pump. After completing the exercise at location one, I proceed to the next obstacle.

There is so much intimacy involved in a kiss and in sex...I plan to kill two birds with one stone, but I need your assistance.

I ask you to kindly assist me by holding her open. You do so while also sneaking a couple circulations around your clit before I spend the next 60 seconds doing tricks inside you with my tongue, hoping that, you enjoy the French Kiss as much as I do.

After spending time, giving her some oral QT. I might as well let him give her a kiss as well. I mean she is sitting there, already open to him. He is already sticking straight out pointing to her.

Before I could finish my overly wordy description, you grab him at the shaft and rub him inside your opening, causing him to be covered with her peach nectar. Then you touch the tip of him to your clit as they share a kiss.

You smile in arousal mixed with direct stimulation and start rubbing her more intently as you search for just the right spot on your clit to stimulate. Now closing your eyes while enjoying your personal joystick, you slip up and miss your clit causing him to take a dive into your warm whirlpool of moisture.

At that point you cum again...There was no planning that move, or was it. I guess the feeling of surprise, mixed with the feeling of your pussy being filled up completely, was too much for her as she came and came some more with each stroke for the next 20 seconds...

"Whew...Let's take a break. I can't take much more on this hard ass hood!"

Fine...

I pull out and help you in the house. You make your way to the refrigerator to get just a little water, before continuing. You reach down to the ice dispenser and that's when you feel it...I've grabbed your vibrator and placed it inside you from behind. You lean forward, glass of water in right hand and left hand to brace yourself against the refrigerator door. You start to moan again even more aggressively due to the fact that I have already reached around to rub your clit with my fingers, giving you 2 different types of stimulation.

I am a technician, so I am trying intently to locate your gspot with the vibrator....Found it!... I keep stimulating both until you squirt, in a splash, right onto the floor which is something you'd never ever done.

I remove my fingers from your clit and your vibrator from inside you and hug you passionately from behind, as I move your hair to kiss the back of your neck, whispering how much I love you and have enjoyed planning this whole thing out, just as much as executing it.

You feel my dick rise up in between your legs as you look down and see him peaking from in between your thighs. You start to move back and forth stroking him with your hand and sliding back and forth like you are straddling a hand rail.

I lay down on the kitchen floor and you ride me backwards taking care to fit as much of him inside you as you can.

"Baby, I am about to cum again, come with me."

I say, "okay", but yes, I am lying...*wink*

As you reach your next climax, believing I am, orgasmicly, right behind you, I push you off of me and spin you around, and into a, "text book", 69 position.

I continue where my dick left off, performing oral gymnastics inside you, as you fill your throat with my dick. As I continue to please you and as you are cumming once again, you feel me explode in your mouth, tasting like pineapple so you know I had been drinking my pineapple and Patron. You feel vaginal suction kisses, which is me cleaning you out, for the next couple seconds, as we cum to a close, our 24 hour fantasy...

I hope you enjoyed!

You Think It I'll Say It: Verbal Intercourse...

Dictionary.com defines "conversation" as...


1. informal interchange of thoughts, information, etc., by spoken words; oral communication between persons; talk; colloquy.
2. association or social intercourse; intimate acquaintance.

A good conversation is like good sex. There should be a little foreplay, great intercourse, with some position changing as needed, and multiple orgasms throughout. Then, hopefully if the conversation is a good enough experience to make you want to come back for more. 


Conversation is so important, that there are degrees in college dedicated to it.

We converse every single day with someone; a group of people; even ourselves for that matter.


When in or pursuing a relationship, good conversation has very serious implications. A good conversation can bring you closer together. You can learn more about a persons wants, needs, pet peeves, goals, dreams, nightmares, etc. A bad conversation can turn you off, leave a bad taste in your mouth, tell you a lot about a person, or end the potential beginning of a relationship.


So you see her from across the room, train, hallway, store, club, etc. What do you say? Do you compliment her? Do you tell her how attractive she is? Do you try and make her laugh? Do you say something miscellaneous to have an excuse to speak? Do you ask her name? Do you start by telling her yours? Do you buy her a drink? Do you invite her out?


There are 334, 256 things you could say to her, but what would be the most effective? These simple tips may help you figure that out.

1. Genuine is best. If she thinks you are just talking to talk, she may stop talking and walk. Say what you mean and put some sincerity behind it.
2. Clarity is key. If she doesn't understand what you are saying, she won't pay attention to what you are saying. Don't mistake eye contact for understanding. Don't mistake her entertaining you as interest.
3. Confidence is attractive. Many people are attracted to individuals with confidence and know what they want. State your request/intentions. "I'd like to call you sometime." "I'd like to take you out sometime."
4. Observe your target. What are your surroundings? What are they wearing, reading, or doing? You can find out a lot from paying attention. (I'll show this in action later)
5. Listen. Talking too much can cause you to miss out on learning something about your target that could prove helpful in your pursuit.
6. Timing is everything. Talking too long when they are heading somewhere, is not a good thing. Know/Learn when to extend the conversation or when to say, "It was very nice meeting you, and I would love to contact you later if you have the time."


Of course there are probably hundreds of other things you may find important, but those are items that I feel can give you positive results.

You notice a very attractive woman. Take a mental note of the following:
1. Clothing. Is she casual or dressy? Tennis shoes or heels? Engagement/Wedding ring or not?
Reason: If she is dressy, she may be on the way to work, coming from work, on the way to an interview, either way that's worth ASKING. If she has on running shoes, she may workout, been in heels all day, may be laid back.  If she doesn't have a ring on, she may be single or not. FYI: Single does not necessarily mean she wants to change that status with you, so don't be heart broken.


2. Pace. Is she rushing or casually taking in the moment?
Reason: To want her so bad, you inconvenience her by talking too long, is not very considerate and will be mentally noted. Read the situation and act accordingly. Get to the point quickly and exit the stage if necessary. It doesn't hurt to, in this case, state the obvious. "I can see you just got off work and I'm sure you want to get home and relax..." "I can see you and your little girl are having mother daughter time and I would hate to interrupt that..." I think you get the hint!


3. Surroundings. Public or private? A lot of people around or just a few? Are you at a store, elevator, office, school, club, book store, etc.?
Reason: You need  to be mindful of your surroundings. At school: "What's your major?" At bookstore: "What do you like reading?" At the office: "What department do you work in?"


4. Purpose. Quickly try and figure out why they are where they are. Are they at a book store looking at real estate magazines? Are they in the spaghetti aisle at the grocery store? Are they in the womens section of Macy's looking at business attire or club clothes?
Reason: This is a great way to spark a conversation, starting with a single question. "Are you house shopping?" "Have you ever made homemade spaghetti sauce?" "Where do you work and what do you do?"


Once you have a little information then it's much easier to execute. The information should give you the confidence you need, in order to make a good, solid first impression. Trust me. A good first impression can excuse the fact that you aren't, Male Model of the Year.

Make love to the mind and the body will follow! (Ideally speaking)

You Think It I'll Say It: Perseverance Sometimes Pays Off ...

Dictionary.com defines "Perseverance" as...

1. continued steady belief or efforts, withstanding discouragement or difficulty.

2. steady persistence in a course of action, a purpose, a state, etc., esp. in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement.

I've had female friends ask me why...

1. Why is he still calling me, if I told him I'm not interested?
2. Why is he still trying to sleep with me, when I told him I just want to be friends?
3. Why is he still trying to get my number, when I said no the first time?
4. Why is he still asking me out, when I keep telling him I'm busy?

Well ladies, I have the answer to all of those questions and more, in two individual words.

Persistence and Cyclical

Society has taught persistence since as long as the world has been in existence. We've all heard the following phrases at one time or another.


When the world says, "Give up," Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."

Difficult things take a long time, impossible things a little longer.  ~André A. Jackson


Don't let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it.  The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.  ~Earl Nightingale

"Persistence pays off."

"Winners never quit and quitters never win."

Of course there are many more than what I've listed, but that's my point. There are 2 billion reasons why people continue striving for what they want and or need.

The second word, Cyclical, is what I believe all humans fall under. Yes today; no tomorrow; maybe the next day.

For whatever reason you'd like to speculate, we all have had moments of decision changes and inconsistency.

I believe that's why people don't give up when you want them to or thing they should. My saying is, "For every person that said, "NO" and meant it; There are two people that said, "NO" and meant, "not now" or "not today".


That being said, if you want what you SAY to have permanent meaning, you have to MAKE it that way. The next time you say something, put permanent action behind it and that may relieve some of the stress of having to repeat yourself.

Keep in mind though, if you are the person that says, "NO," but says, "YES" to the exact same request, from the exact same person two weeks later, you may be causing your own problems. You may be building the reputation of, "He/She is just a talker!"

Just An Everyday Fantasy: Sexual Assault (Part 2)...

After resting for another couple minutes, you are anxious to see what surprise awaits you in room 101. You take the elevator up to the first floor, all the while admiring the view of a summer evening in Buckhead, Atlanta. 

"1st floor”, then the elevator doors open. You follow the signs to room 101. "Am I missing something?" You have looked up and down each hallway and to your surprise, there is no 101. The numbers skip from 100 to 102. You call the front desk from the hallway phone. They explain to you that room 101 is actually on the penthouse floor. You smile and continue your ride up. With this being your first experience in a penthouse suite, you suddenly become slightly aroused at the thought of it all.


You arrive at the penthouse suite door; unlock it with the key provided; and open the door to your next unexpected surprise. After opening the door, you drop the key in amazement, and admire the full view. Two story condo style executive suite: Floor to ceiling windows facing the setting sun, master on the first floor with a loft on the second floor overlooking the living room.

As you look around the immaculate surroundings, your observations are interrupted by a knock at the door. “Hotel Maintenance”. You answer the door and a member of management accompanied by hotel maintenance,  asks you to kindly come to the lobby. "Ma'am, there's a slow leak starting in the middle of your room. Have you seen or experienced in dampness or moisture in the area?" With a chuckle you can barely hide, you answer, "I haven't noticed any major leaks, but you are welcome to check the room." 


"Ma'am, we appreciate your cooperation and should be done shortly." 


You oblige, thinking to yourself how bad you just want to disrobe and lay across the bed. "Wait a minute," you think to yourself, “Where is my next note? Oh well!", you say to yourself, “When they let me back in I’ll look for it.”


While waiting in the lobby, as management checks something in the computer, a well dressed sales person from the hotel store, hands you a note and invites you into the hotel boutique. 

While wondering how in the world he knew you were the right person, you ask the sales person, “Uh…Quick question…How do you know this note is for me?”


He responds, “This message was left for me by my manager. It described you in meticulous detail, would you like to see it?” ”Yes, that would be nice” He pulls the note from his inside pocket and hands it to you…The front of the envelope reads, “Room 101 – 6:30pm – Pretty Girl” You smile as you open the letter and expand the trifolded letter that read: 

"The recipient of this letter is gorgeous. She has beautiful brown skin and eyes to match (but don’t look too close). She’s ambitious, so you’ll be able to tell by her walk and the way she looks right through your eyes when she stares at you. She is passionate, so her smile will allow you ample evidence of her love of happiness and sensual disposition."


Just then a warm tingle starts to drift through your body. It starts right behind your eyes; travels around your neck and down your spine; follows your waistline around to the front of your stomach and straight up through the center of your chest; then to the left and right circling the areola of each breast then down the side of your waist splitting at your warm and slightly aroused vagina; down each beautiful brown thigh, until it reaches your toes, that you curl inside your tomato red Manolo pumps. He taps you on the shoulder, interrupting the flow of arousal and hands you a bag. Enclosed is a Japanese Kimono dress that just so happens to match your pumps.

The hotel manager returns, apologizes for the delay, and offers you a free drink in the hotel lounge, which you gladly accept and drink before even getting back to the elevator. 


You get off on the penthouse and head back to the room, where you find the door partially open. You enter slowly still not sure if this is part of another one of my sinister plots or if maintenance just forgot to close it…


You give the place a walk through and find the room empty…


Just then, you notice a man-sized lump in the middle of the master bed. "Bingo! I know I got him now!" You assume I am sleeping or at least trying to surprise you. You reach to pull the covers back, someone grabs you from behind. Right arm at your waist and left on your breast. In a fit of fear, you attempt to scream, but suddenly stop? Why? Is it because you can smell the cologne that you know I wear; or is it because the kiss that has just been forcefully applied to the back of your neck, reminds you of my kiss. 


Either way, at that moment, while still anxious, you begin to let your guard down, which is still risky seeing as you have not yet seen who was behind you.

The obviously aroused assailant, which you can tell by his hard and long dick, pressing against your ass, then pulls out a blindfold and wraps it around your eyes, while also asking you to stay calm so you don’t get hurt. Next your hands are tied, firmly with ribbon behind your back. The ruthless criminal kisses you passionately on the lips, seemingly sucking all the resistance and stress from the day out of your body. He takes your hand and places each finger around his shaft, which has come out of his pants. With your back to him, you stroke vigorously. almost as if you weren't being forced to do so. After feeling every inch and vein and curve of his completely solid shaft, you are surprised by what he says next. 


"What do you think you are doing?" "Is that supposed to feel good?" you timidly respond, "It doesn't feel good because you seem pretty hard?"


I laugh, (I mean he) laughs and drags you into the other room and sits you on the suede ottoman in middle of the living room. "Sit your ass down," he demands as he spreads your legs and rips your panties from your body, showing his brute force and focus on taking your pussy from you, only to extract the cum from it and give it back to you when he's ready. 

Your legs are spread wide and pussy lips already blossomed open showing a thin line of pussy juice dripping down the center like rain drops on a window pane. He then parts your vagina lips with his tongue and begins an assault of licks, sucks, and French kisses, that send your whole body into such a frenzy that you can’t help, but release your passion all over his face and chest.


Now seemingly interested, by your flood of juice, he rips your blouse off, taking care to send every innocent button flying across the floor. He grabs your waist, hands still bound and proceeds to detail your breasts and erect nipples in such a way, that you question all previous sexual experiences before him. He knows when to bite and how hard and he knows when to suck and how soft…Surprisingly enough, he also knows how to slide the head of his dick right up into the opening of your lady, without you even realizing it. 


Like a bull dozer busting through the walls of a dam…As he entered slowly, but forcefully she welcomed him in, covering him with a thick glaze of cum, juices and sweat (which by the way turned me on more…him I mean).

As he alternates between kissing your lips and nipples and neck while, now, deep stroking every inch inside you he then realized something hadn’t happened yet…”Pretty Girl…I want you to cum for me.” “I want to feel you contract every muscle in your body around me.” “I want you to masturbate with my dick until you can’t…” “Baby…Stop ttttalkin so much, I’m c-cumming right, now for the second time…Can’t you feel…it…Oh shit” you scream, as you break free from the hand tied ribbon and wrap your arms around my shoulders. 


“Wow,” you sigh, as you fall back on to the over sized ottoman…I say, "I’ll be right back," as you assume I am heading to the bathroom to clean off.


He quietly slips out, as you decide, after a couple of minutes, that the blind fold comes off, lol! 

You call my name, “Hurry up! I want you to cum too.” No response. That’s weird! You make your way to the bathroom, where you find a maintenance uniform that you pick up which reads…”Thorough Plumbing – We go as deep as your pipe will allow and always cause leaks…”

Under the hat on the counter is another note that reads…”I love you and To be continued…”

Just An Everyday Fantasy: It Starts With A Note (Part 1)...

Having a busy schedule is no excuse for us. We always make time to keep things interesting in our relationship. Since it's my turn I plan to do something slightly different.

I am running a little late, getting off work, which is nothing unusual. The fact that it's Friday only makes it "suck" a little more, but since it's my fault, I'll have to just "suck" just a little more later. *wink*

You beat me home and prepare to start dinner. You open up the refrigerator door, in search of something to make, only to find a note taped to a, completely chilled, bottle of Moscato D' Asti.

The note reads, "Baby, I truly appreciate you." "Turn to your right and open the pantry door." You do and there you find another note, taped to a set of wine glasses with, "Read Me...", attached to one of them.

This note reads, "Take these glasses, along with the bottle of wine, to 3377 Peachtree St. NE.  (use valet)" "There you will find further instructions."

With an excited grin on your face you think to yourself to call me, but notice on the back of the second note are the words, "Do not contact me, just follow directions!" You laugh and reluctantly comply.

After driving 900 hundred miles per hour to the destination, you realize you are pulling up to the "W" in Buckhead. You use valet, but realize you have no idea what you are doing there. You think to at least text me, before remembering my previous request of NO CONTACT. At that very moment, a woman approaches and asks your name. “Ma’am is your nickname, Pretty Girl?” Startled by the reference, you reply, “Yes” while trying to hide your blushing face. She then points you to the spa area.

As you enter, they take the glasses and wine from your hands and offer you a room to change in, explaining that you'll need to disrobe for your full body massage. You hadn't had one of those in a couple weeks, so it was about time.

After doing so, you lie down on the massage table. The room set to the perfect temperature. A deep breath releases itself from your chest, as you relish in the curiously arousing moment.

The massage begins; starting at your neck and shoulders; traveling to your upper back, then down to your lower back; then concludes with your thighs, calves, and feet.

30 minutes goes by just like that and before you know it you are starting to dose off, barely notice that the hands of the massage therapist have started to creep up to your beautifully rounded ass. You quickly and curiously turn around, in the dimly lit room, with a formal complaint and curse words written all over your face and ready to be unleashed.

Before you are even able to roll your neck good, you hear a whisper. "Is there something wrong with the massage, Pretty Girl?" At the same time you feel one hand pushing you back down, while the other is gripping your waist.

At the very moment, my very strategic "masseuse switch", has been revealed, your gently forming smile suddenly evolves into a beautifully, serious grin of satisfaction, as I insert my erect and out stretched tongue inside the wet lips of your instantaneously wet and warm vagina. You firmly grab the corners of the massage table as you slowly spread your legs apart and raise your ass. Only your lower body performs the adjustment, as your warm breasts and hard nipples, stay firmly pressed to the massage table.

In and out I go as you back up to my face, while I use my free hands to spread your cheeks and lips apart for maximum penetration. In a very similar motion to the way you grab my dick with your hands and stroke it; You are jacking my tongue off with your creamy, pussy lips, but in this case you get to cum and not me. It's "pleasing you" time.

I continue slowly fucking you with my tongue, while directing you to wet your fingers then rub on your clit, so I politely take your fingers and suck them, applying enough saliva to get you started, because my hands are obviously occupied.

After a couple of minutes pass, you are starting to gyrate and force my tongue deeper inside you, so I know you are about to orgasm. Your stomach starts to tighten: legs start to quiver from muscle spasms; and breathing starts to increase, as you feel physical reactions similar to volcanic eruptions welling around inside your pussy walls, ready to implode and explode creamy contractions, literally at the same time.

I brace myself and take a deep breath, similar to the preparation a swimmer makes before for a dive in the deep end of the pool. "Baby, I'm starting to…uh…I’m starting to cum so please, baby, don't stop." As much as I would love to respond and tell you to keep pushing your juices out, until your hip, foot and stomach muscles hurt; my mouth is full of your creamy sweet cum, so the timing isn't the greatest.

After a couple more orgasms, you collapse to the canvas, like a knocked out boxer. As you deeply breathe in the reminders of such a passionate scene in your own adult film fantasy, you breathe out the physical reactions of such deep stimulation.

And just like that, your ass is covered back up with towels and the original masseuse is back and my cum soaked chest, chin and tongue are gone.

You feel a tap on the shoulder, as the masseuse hands you a folded card that reads…Room 101…Key attached.

To be continued…

You Think It I'll Say It: Troubleshooting an Infinite Loop...

Dictionary.com defines the computer term "infinite loop" as...

A piece of program that is executed repeatedly with no hope of stopping. This is nearly always because of a bug.

That being said, I've found that, my self included, humans have the habit of choosing, not always what's best for us, but what we are used to.

Try this survey! Be truthful and at the end, the picture will tell you what the questions really lead to...GOOD LUCK!


List 10 things that you look for in a girlfriend/boyfriend, mate, spouse, etc.

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If you were extremely attracted to this person and felt a strong "initial" spark; How many things from the second question would be "must haves"? (1-5)


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Of your past 5 "serious" relationships (1 month or more and fully committed); How many things from the second question did each have? (1-5)

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Of your past 5 "serious" relationships; What are 3 things you would have done differently?

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You Think It I'll Say It: Rock | YOU | Hard Place...

Dictionary.com defines "perspective" as...

1. a mental view or prospect.

With all that we know about the opposite sex, it can still take a lifetime to figure out relationships?

For many women, to become a wife is the ultimate recognition, almost rivaling that of being called a mother. You are not just a girlfriend, main, or significant other. You are a WIFE!

"That just has a nice ring to it doesn't it?"

You are now someones other half, better half, or rib, as a friend of mine refers to it. 

Either way you look at it, you have been chosen, by someone to be "Mrs. Right!"

"Damn you, Society for somewhere down the line of relationships, causing men and women to view marriage so differently."

For many women, marriage seems to compare, in concept, to an NBA, NFL, or MLB Championship Ring.

Fellas, pardon the comparison, but for the sake of translating the legitimacy in their view point, I'll walk down this road.  

Although a player (your girl) may love the game and love playing it (dating you). They still, at the end of the day want "the" ring, and they only need two. Engagement and Wedding. 

That being said, it may make a little more sense why the following has happened or may happen to you. 

1. She gives you an ultimatum. Many times this can happen out of shear frustration. Not because of a lack of love for you, but because the hour glass has started to run out (If she wants kids, even faster). 


In her attempt to help you fully understand her point of view, you may hear the words, "You need to put a ring on my finger..." or "If we are not going down the road of marriage..."


These are legitimate statements from a female perspective. Easy Bake ovens, baby dolls, kitchen sets, even Ken and Barbie for that matter, have introduced "family" in a very powerful way from birth. While we are playing with G. I. Joe and Transformers, they are burping baby dolls and not letting the cookies burn in the oven.


If she is in love with you and loves you and is committed to you, it's safe to assume she wants to be your wife before 30!

2. She may become bitter/unhappy. This is a frustrating one, but should be expected depending on your relationship. How happy are we really, when we don't get what we want or expect to get, based on our efforts? If she has been busting ass to be what you are looking for in a wife and you seem to be avoiding that whole subject, just be prepared for some long nights and arguments and possible distance.

3. She may cheat on you either emotionally/physically. This is a touchy subject because it looks outside the relationship to pacify. As human beings, when our needs are unmet, it is rare that we simply choose to go without. 


She may or may not internalize your lack of interest in marriage and seek approval elsewhere, emotionally or physically or psychologically. 


Remember that if marriage is on her radar, then it is also a part of the liquid included in her emotional cup and nothing good can happen for you when her emotional cup is only half full. Not to condone, just to explain.

4. She may drop hints frequently. Directly or indirectly. In my long work history with Kay Jeweler's, I've seen this maneuver frequently. Random stops into the mall to randomly end up in the jewelry store and randomly end up with a sales person showing you an engagement ring! Invitations to many more couples activities than had been previously attended. Relationship or Marriage Counseling in order to prepare you for "the future." (Which is HIGHLY suggested!) This also should make sense. She wants to get married and we all know a closed mouth doesn't get fed.

If you appreciate your relationship and the female in it, you may want to do the following. 

1. Let her know your intentions both present and future. Clarity can prove to be one of the greatest assets in any relationship. If you want to wait, tell her. If you want to get married tomorrow after work, tell her that too. If you are hesitant because of this ,that, or the other, make that known so that it can be addressed. If you just want a friend, lover, long term girlfriend, etc. She should know.


It is never good to have someone ask your girl what's going on in the relationship and she have the confused face. That being said, ladies, please be as open minded and open hearted as possible. It is possible that if men think you are going to snap and kill three people if he says he's not ready, he may hesitate or lie to you in order to circumvent the initial drama. Let him get it out then act accordingly.

2. Understand her point of view on marriage and plan accordingly.  Know, to the best of your abilities, where she is coming from with her views on marriage. Grandparents, parents, friends, church, etc. Find out what drives her, what her expectations are, and what her fears are. Ladies, this applies to you too. I know plenty of men that have heard some very pessimistic views on marriage. I'll address those later.

3. Keep her emotionally and physically fed. If you happen to be the gentleman that isn't ready for marriage just yet and do not want to cross that line yet, before you are married, it might be a great idea to be the best "boyfriend" you can be. I am always disappointed to hear about the guy that, not only won't marry, but isn't doing boyfriend duties that well. 


You may be asking yourself, "If he's not that great of a boyfriend, then why marry him?" In my opinion, females are some of the most understanding and patient of God's creatures. They can have children for God's sake. 9 months of creating a human being, labor, then 30 years of raising a child, even with a partner takes PATIENCE, but it is not unlimited.

Conversely, a lot of men are raised differently and exposed to a completely different impression of relationships and more importantly marriage.  

While most men understand the importance of marriage, it seems to be, at it's basis, contradictory to what some men feel is an uncontrollable desire. 

Some of our concerns:

1. Sex with one woman for the rest of our lives. Ladies, please do not underestimate this. I've heard some women say, "If he loves me, that feeling should go away." "Am I not good enough to satisfy him sexually?" "What does she have that I don't?" "If he loves me he wouldn't hurt me by cheating" All of the above listed statements are relevant, however, just as much as we need to understand our woman and how her mind and body works, the same understanding needs to be applied to men. I often have compared a man's sexual desire to a female's emotional desire. 

Pardon me if I am totally off base though. A female can find emotional stimuli all day long, soap operas, conversation, reading, talk shows, reality shows, other female, friends, and family, and of course male interaction. They desire that type of stimuli and it is readily available.


Men have been bombarded with almost nothing, but physical stimuli since we could walk and talk. Videos, movies, TV, nightlife, etc. 


Society has wet our appetites for variety since bible times, with kings who had multiple wives. Not saying sex with a million females for life is right, just trying to explain why some guys don't see it as wrong either. (Excluding those in relationships where that is a NO NO!) 


I am not necessarily sure I am correct in this statement, but It seems that a lot of men would gladly have a sexual relationship with 5 different females. Females that may all have different characteristics about them, and still may not necessarily have a strong emotional connection with any of them. You may be asking yourself, "How could he have sex with that many people, that's just nasty?" "How does he just have sex without an emotional connection with some women?" Simple answer. Some men don't necessarily value it the same. So you may need to check with yours.


I said all that to say this, learn your mate. Men need to learn what your needs are emotionally to even have an attempt as satisfying them. Women need to do the same. Take this last statement how you want. You may want to keep his sexual cup full through creativity, spontaneousness, and technique.

2.The Ball and Chain Theory. 

This should be an easy one to solve, I think. Many men are given the impression from other married men that once you get married you are not allowed to do anything. You have a curfew of "street lights", you never see your friends again, and the only place you are allowed to go with out her is church, lol! This may be due to a couple of different reasons, but one I hear most is either, "I don't trust him" or "She doesn't trust me." 


Men FYI: If you violated the trust, please expect a trial period for recovery. (You have no idea how long that's going to be either) This is where you have to be accountable and put on the patience hat.


Ladies FYI: Checking up behind him and through his things has never in the history of time REALLY helped you trust him anymore than you did. I could be wrong though.


If you are confident enough to be flexible in some of his important areas, he should appreciate it. This however does not let the guys off the hook. Intentions and expectations should be openly discussed by both parties.


Lastly, NEITHER gender is going to be happy with you playing COOL with certain things then as soon as you open your last wedding gift say, "You are a husband/wife now. You can't/shouldn't do that."

3. Lack of sex after marriage/kids. SCARY! As much as men love sex, ladies please be resourceful. If you are unable to have sex or just don't have the desire please come up with something. If you have the desire, but can't for whatever reason, first let him know, then use other appendages, lol, but serious. 


If you do not have the desire, again, please tell him. He may come up with something to relight that pilot and get the flame going, but to keep him ignorant and in the dark will force him to try and suppress a need that may take an army to subdue. Fellas, this does apply in reverse!!!


4. Lack of her physical appeal. What I am about to say may seem harsh, so I hope I explain it right. When a man looks at a magazine and sees the following. Here is what he sees. She's still got it! She works out! I want my girl to look the same way after 40, which all of the women listed are. 

Let's be realistic though. As much as I don't look like Taye Diggs, Tyson Beckford, or Nelly for that matter, I still try to look the best I can look. That's all many men ask of their mate. We want you to work as hard as possible to remain physically attractive post kids and post 30's. In all fairness, the same can be asked of men...More work, less excuses.

Rounding this all up, the thing to remember is that different perspectives on marriage only become a bad thing when:

1. They aren't discussed. No discussion. No resolution.
2. They become frequent excuses for relationship progress.
3. They are known and a resolution is not sought after.

Marriage has the potential to be the greatest, most loving relationship you ever feel and the biggest commitment you will ever make and ALL things should be discussed before signing on the dotted line!