Saturday, October 30, 2010

Just An Everyday Fantasy: When Unisex is Bad...




I've learned over the years that, in life, you never know what the next day will bring. At most, you only have an idea. 

Saturday morning, I am up an at 'em. Never really sleeping too hard is something I pride myself on. By hard, I do mean deep and by deep, I do mean sound. I must clarify; because our emotional and sexual connections mostly replaces the actual meaning for a word with the sexually explicit meaning, you and I can understand with our eyes closed. 



Kind of like the night we were blind folded in the beachside condo in Miami with total darkness; a bottle of White Zinfandel; baby oil; and fresh fruit to entertain us. Before that night, I can honestly say we had never made love that passionately for that long before. I think you came five times driving your fingernails into my back with each pulsating, muscle clinching orgasm. 

Side Note: It’s strange, the powerful connection we have after dating for a little over three months. 

“Now where was I?”

After waking up, I workout for an hour; then take a shower; and get dressed. I forward you a text I received from a friend regarding tickets to a comedy show this evening. There are about six other friends going so it should be fun. You respond, “Sure, just need to get a couple of things done that evening, but I should be available.” I'll take that as a yes, because when you decide you are going to get something done, little can stop that. :-) Just another thing I love about you. 



As they day goes on I am feeling a little accomplished myself. I was able to meet with 3 clients and complete two renovations. Business is good. As the evening draws near and the anticipation grows at the thought of seeing you, I iron my clothes after my nightly workout and prepare to get dressed. Now fresh out of the shower you can imagine me toned and oiled up with lotion I put on my stomach down to my pelvis where you like to touch the V cut area and still slightly aroused from thinking about you. So after getting dressed, it's about show time. I jump in the Maserati Quattroporte and head over to Uptown Comedy corner. 




I hate not picking you up, but you have explained on numerous occasions that when we have too much privacy, Good Sex Happens. Lol. I can respect that. I am wearing that favorite cologne you like. The kind that makes you hug me for a couple of seconds longer. That kind that makes you close your eyes a little tighter when we kiss. The kind that gets my clothes off a little faster when we have privacy. The kind...You get the drift! 

I pull up to the club and the line is long. I see you towards the end and damn near ran over the parking lot attendant staring at your smile. Lost track of where the hell I was. After parking and almost forgetting to put the car alarm on, I rush up to see you. I got dirty looks from others as I crept up next to you and gave you the biggest hug lifting you off the ground. 



As a FYI, standing behind you for more than 5 minutes, smelling your aroma as well as looking at your body in that outfit was legal grounds for “visual sexual assault”. 

As the bouncer heads down the line directing people to get in a straight line, someone backs into you then you back into me. I brace your fall as a “vertical spoon” takes place, lol. You turn around and smile as you whisper, "Is everything ok?" in my most sexy non aroused, but lying voice I say, "Yeah I'm cool it's just a little hard out, I mean cold out. :-) 

You respond, “Sweetie it's 75 degrees”, as I respond with a “Shut up and turn around”, lol. Since you wanna be a comedian now, I wanna see how funny moist boy shorts are. I reach around you like I am giving you a hug from behind and due to the compact crowd, no one is the wiser of my inappropriateness. As not to make your skirt fall completely down, I work my fingers around to the front, pelvic region of your dress as I outlined your vagina with my middle finger. Not truly concerned at first, you start to snuggle into me comfortably, yet ironically also uncomfortably at the same time, because at that moment you realize two things. 

1. That I don't need to actually be inside your panties to stimulate you and that I can find your most sensitive areas with no help needed. 

2. That you are no longer as calm, cool, and collected as you thought you were, now throbbing and slightly moist. 

After standing in line for another 20 minutes (and 1 orgasm later), we finally get inside and locate our other friends who had been waiting for a while. All we get is smirks and jokes as we sit down. "What were you all doing that you couldn't get here on time?” "Nothing", we respond as we sit and order a couple of drinks and some chicken fingers and fries. 



30 minutes flies by… Damn, these comedians are hilarious. We are enjoying every act and with two drinks a piece in us, we are starting to feel that “tipsy tingle”. The tipsy feeling and the "other" feeling, lol. "I wonder if she is still aroused?” is what I ask myself as I reach down under the table-cloth in the dimly lit club and spread your legs apart, running my finger along the inside of your warm, soft thighs. 



At that very moment you’re friend starts up a conversation with you. You flinch as you try not to interrupt the conversation, yet you then start to ease your legs apart almost inviting my hands to continue their journey north. I run my fingertips up your inner thighs to your Victoria Secrets and pull your panties to the side exposing your most sensitive area, all under the distraction of drinks friends and comedians. As I start to massage you, in a circular motion, you reach your hand under the table and lightly slap my hand as if to say stop, but not really... I am hard-headed, literally, so I continue rubbing, now a little faster than before. I then reach down deeper and enter you as far as I can at that angle. I begin to firmly rub your gspot until it starts to swell to the point of orgasm. At that point where you are about to explode and can barely maintain eye contact with your friend, you grab my hand as tightly as you can and try to fight the orgasm and muscle contractions vibrating through your body and up your spine. You can't fight it any longer and you release so hard you drop the chicken finger back into the plate then excuse yourself to the restroom after slapping me in the back of my head and calling me an asshole. 

I looked down at my phone after a couple of minutes and read a text you just sent me. "Come here to the restroom, I have something to tell you." Without hesitation I also excuse myself from the table and wait in line at the 2 unisex bathrooms next to the stage. Just as I reach the line of 3 people I looked down and check a second text. "I'm in the bathroom on the left". 



The people in line ahead of me grow frustrated at the slow progress of the left bathroom. "Who in the hell is in there?" they ask. After suggesting that they use the restroom on the right, I go to the left bathroom and text you "I'm at the door". I turn the handle and the door opens as I quickly close and lock it behind me. "How can I help you---?" You respond, while sitting on the now extremely clean bathroom sink, "Look what you are making me do!" 



You sit on the counter and with panties to your ankles expose your wet fingers which have been sliding in and out of you for the last-minute or so. You hold out your fingers for me to taste. Just like icing. Creamy and sweet and something I don't mind having sticky on my lips. It turns you on in an interesting way to see me licking your fingers clean of your juices. 

As you scoot to the edge of the counter I drop to my knees, move your fingers out-of-the-way and proceed to slowly and firmly suck your exposed and throbbing clitoris, while also inserting my fingers inside you for multiple stimulation. No time goes by and you are now grabbing my ears and neck. You moan that you are about to come again and just like that you kick the soap dispenser off the wall as your legs open like butterfly wings and you release yourself again. Already extremely aroused from knowing that I am pleasing you, you grab my shirt and pull me up and closer to you whispering, “I wanna feel him”. 

Without a seconds hesitation I use the him to tease you a little…First sliding in only enough to part your lips and cover him in your wetness, then secondly to rub him up and down on your now fully exposed clitoris. You shiver from the slight over stimulation then pull me close again causing me to almost stumble as I slide him all the way inside you as you clinch from the feeling of pleasure and pain intermingled. I first start slowly as you regain your stamina and start rubbing your clitoris with your soaked fingers as I stroke. 

”Why the fuck are you taking so long, damn?” 

Is what we hear as the irritated and bladder filled patrons wait frustrated outside never realizing the fantasy taking place only a door’s thickness away! After about 11 more strokes I place my arms under your knees and lift you up, still placed firmly inside you as you give me the sexiest look of surprise at the passion you haven’t seen before in my eyes. A look that says, “…I can make love to you like this for hours if you let me!” Up and down you slide on top of me coming once, and then twice hugging my neck so tightly that I almost lose a breath! “You know I can feel you pulsating right?” I laugh as I confess to you catching me contract the muscles in my friend. Didn't think females were the only ones that could manipulate that muscle did you? 

Just as you begin to say yes, I have already pulled out and bent you over holding the edge of the sink as I bulldozed your inner walls trying to make them come crumbling down! “Why are you doing this to me?” (While still stroking) I answer, “Doing what? You started this…If you weren’t so sexy, smart, sensitive, humorous, confident, sexual, passionate, down-to-earth, and friendly, we wouldn’t be in love as much as we are and the sex wouldn’t be so damn good, so come for me one last time so we can get out of this bathroom…Our friends are waiting.” “Ok, baby…Why do you like when I come so much?” “Because, when you are pleased then I am more than pleased so just concentrate and give me one more…” 



As you close your eyes and are now letting me penetrate you from the back while you stand straight up pressed against the bathroom mirror…I can feel your body melting like ice at room temperature. You start to receive me a little slower and deeper…holding on to the back of my neck as our bodies seem to just mesh together… ”I think she is about to come again…here she comes…” 

At that very moment I drop to my knees spreading you wide open as I finish the job with my out stretched tongue and swallow every drop of your honey and cream tasting nectar. 

I wash you off and you do the same for me then we reattached our wrinkled clothes, exchange a hug so tight I lift you off your feet, and we figure out how in the hell we are going to get out of this bathroom without red flags going up, lol!

Things to Remember: Spontaneousness. Creativeness. Sensuality. Unselfishness. 

Thursday, October 28, 2010

You Think It I'll Say It: Extra Credit When Failing a Test = Failing the Test...

Dictionary.com defines "expect" as...

1. to look forward to; regard as likely to happen; anticipate the occurrence or the coming of.
2. to look for with reason or justification.
3. to anticipate.

When I was younger, my mother would make sure I clearly understood the importance of following directions.



One morning on the way to school, she dropped me off at the bus stop and said, "I want that nasty room cleaned before I get home from work".

"Ok", I responded, as I smiled, kissed her on the cheek, and boarded the bus. 

Upon her arrival home after work, she walked in, gave me a hug and kiss, then promptly made her way to my bedroom, where she expected my room to be clean, based on our earlier conversation. 

After less than a minute of inspection, she returned to where I was and asked, "Nathan, Why didn't you clean your room, like I asked?"

I responded in the most loving yet disobedient way, "Mom, I didn't clean my room, but did you see the living room? I cleaned that perfectly".



In her usual, lovingly instructional way she said, "Son, What I want you to do, is what I asked. If you would just do what I’ve asked, you would never have to do extra. Extra doesn't mean much if what I requested wasn't done. "

Wow.

She taught me a very valuable lesson with her string of statements. In relationships, it is very easy to use my same response with our mates. It’s easy to be very selfish even though we know the following.

1. We know what to do for our mate.
2. We know what our mate likes.
3. We know how our mate likes it done.

Yet, we still take the lazy approach by doing things for our mate the way WE want to do them and then say the most ironic thing when asked, “Why you don’t do the things I like the way want them done…”

“I love him/her my way!”

The problem with that statement is all 5 words of it, lol!

Love is very, internally judged. We all have a personalized view of what LOVE means to us. For some it may mean money, diamonds, flashy vacations, and great night life activities. For others it may be romantic evenings, a great sex life, dates every now and then, and a roof over their head. Others may even feel like love is, commitment, friendship, long talks at night, and helping with anything they may need help with.



You are the ONLY one that can define what love means to you. Once you figure that out and can articulate it to others, you are well on your way to developing this important word called a “standards”. When standards aren’t met it will then be easy to evaluate.

Lastly, let’s not forget the big 3 lettered monster…”SEX”



This is another area that humans love to do THEIR way and care or not care if the receiver has a mutually good sexual experience.

The best way to avoid those awkward sexual experiences and “faked” moments is to wipe your sexual slate clean with your new interest and treat them just like you would a class in school that you are interested in. You pay attention and learn them inside and out in order to please them the way THEY want to be pleased.

The more you travel the same route, you also learn how to get there faster and when road blocks arise you can find other ways to still please!

I have learned in my 31 years of life that if you just follow directions you rarely get lost on the way to your destination!



Wednesday, October 27, 2010

You Think It I'll Say It: Continuous Dating...

Dictionary.com defines "continue" as...
1. to go on or keep on, as in some course or action.
2. to last or endure.
3. to go on with or persist in: to continue an action.

If you choose not to continually perform maintenance on your relationship it will be doomed to break down on you...

If you have ever found that the first 6 months of your relationship was the most exciting 180 days of your relationship then excitement can come again...One way or another!
The excitement you feel in the first 90 days of your relationship can often be described as the most mentally, physically, and emotionally arousing days you experience.


How and why does this happen? What makes it so exciting? What makes me want to talk to him all night long despite having to work in the morning? What makes me text her while coming very close to vehicular tragedy, just to respond quickly enough for her to clearly see that she was on my mind as well? What makes me spend way too long getting prepared just to see him? What makes me spend all day trying to plan out the perfect weekend for her?


These are all questions that we have, most likely, asked ourselves at some point or another during our dating timeline.
The reason, in my opinion, can fall under one fundamental reason...You were interested in them and wanted to make a great impression.
I know what some of you are saying to yourselves.
"That's just how I am, I don't TRY and impress anyone."
You may be the guy that is considerate, attentive, and pulls out chairs and opens doors as a matter of routine. You may be the woman that is "jazzy" by nature, down to earth, and can cook and clean circles around even his mother.
Now if that's the case, then cheers to you! You have been exempt from this post, lol! You exhibit a high standard of operation that we should all hope to be this way.
If you, however, don't fall into that category then pay close attention. This may just save you some future problems.
Now that we have established that interest sparks the desire to impress, we need to figure out why???
This desire may be sparked by one of the following needs:
1. Emotional
2. Physical
3. Psychological
Those can also be expanded further into either long or short term needs. Either way, you tend to put A LOT of effort and consideration into "hooking" your "interest" and pulling them right out of the proverbial "dating pool" or in this case "dating pond".


Now there are numerous ways to accomplish this and you just have to find the technique that fits your "fishing" style. For help...See below, lol!
In regards to your “interest”:
1. Be attentive/observant. Know her likes and dislikes. Increase his likes. Decrease his dislikes. . New outfit. New hair style. New interests. Bad mood today. Good mood today. Need a hug. Need more than a hug.
2. Communicate effectively. Figure out the best way for her to receive your message. Learn when, where, and how to deliver the message to him.
3. Grooming isn't gay, lol! Fellas, it's ok to keep your finger and toe nails cut for hopefully obvious reasons. Bad breath is just immature. Especially since there are these cool little inventions called breath mints.
4. Exercise. You don't have to train to compete in the strong man competition, but a little exercise offers some benefits. Ladies, being flexible can come in handy too. Hopefully you'll figure out the benefits of both sooner than later. Taking the steps and doing situps every night can provide benefit.
5. Pursue financial stability. You don't have to be rich, although I’m sure that would be nice, but to be able to afford a couple dates a month would be advisable. It’s fine if he normally pays, but being able to treat him every now and then is attractive.
6. Be versatile. Be able to alternate between street smart, book smart, aggressive, passive, religious, sensitive, blunt, emotional, strong, classy, hood, etc. Why would a person choose someone with just personality type when they can have them all in you?
7. Be "Sex Intelligent". Your aim should be to understand her body better than she does, both inside and out. Know exactly where to place the heating pad during that "hell week". Additionally, know exactly which of his buttons to press, when, and what reaction it may cause. THIS IS IMPORTANT!
8. Be friends. Make them feel comfortable bringing you around friends and family. A woman with a good man loves to show him off to EVERYONE! Don’t make her regret it!
The things you do to and for a person when you are highly interested in them does not become any less interesting just because you know longer do those things.
What would make you think that just because you have lost the interest in GIVING means that they have lost the interest in RECEIVING?
Keep their cup full and hopefully they will never go thirsty!

Sunday, October 24, 2010

You Think It I'll Say It: Creativity by Design...

Dictionary.com defines "creative" as...

1. having the quality or power of creating.
2. resulting from originality of thought, expression, etc.; imaginative: creative writing.
3. originative; productive (usually fol. by of ).

There are those in this world that find comfort and contentment in unimagination. Day in and day out the same routine, never really desiring or expecting anything new "Under the Sun".

To those I say, "My heart goes out to you.", because you have joined a very large, but depressing club called, "Complacency".

FEAR NOT...It is not a club you have to remain a member of.

Whether you are there because you are the highly functioning individual that has had a less than ideal time finding someone else that matched your artistic prowess or you are there because you weren't born with the instinctive ability to take one thing and multiply it into many, I think I can help...

For the latter, this is for you...

1. Pick one thing that you know a person likes or loves and write it down. The mind works a multitude of ways and one of the most powerful is visual so write it down! The key words here are likes or loves. If it doesn't fall into one of those categories, it doesn't make the list, lol!

2. Make a list numbered to 12. This also helps to arouse the mind's receptors. Similar to visualizing the finish line in a race. The significance of 12 is, you guessed it, 12 months in a year.

3. Take your time and come up with 12 different ways to demonstrate, to that loved or for that matter liked one, that they are special and that their happiness is worth thinking out of the box. THIS WILL NOT BE EASY!

For example, if their favorite food is Italian...


1. Cook their favorite Italian dish. Benefit: Shows creativity, preparation, consideration and planning.
2. Order it and have it waiting for dinner. Benefit: No cooking necessary, shows memory skills, thoughtful.
3. Order it and have it delivered to work/school etc. Benefit: They are the envy of friends and coworkers in addition to the above benefits.
4. Order it and hand deliver it to them. Benefit: They are still the envy of friends and coworkers as well as they get to see you IN PERSON.
5. Plan a date to their favorite Italian restaurant. Benefit: Simple and effective.
6. Get them a gift certificate to their favorite Italian restaurant. Benefit: Simple and thoughtful and saves them money.
7. While on the date at the restaurant, have her favorite flower delivered to the table with dessert. Benefit: Romantic, thoughtful and she would be receiving, "princess like" attention. (If she is shy, this may not be a good idea)
8. While on the date at the restaurant, have a personalized greeting card delivered to the table with dessert. Benefits: Same as above, but a little less "Superstar".
9. Cook their favorite Italian dish wearing, shall we say, something more appetizing than the Italian dish, lol! Benefit: Self explanatory, I hope!
10. Cook the Italian dish together. Benefit: Something you can do together, romantic, casual, and fun
11. Sign up for an Italian cooking class to take together. Benefit: Same as above!
12. Once a month sample a different Italian restaurant in the city. Benefit: Creative and each time is a fresh venue.

IMPORTANT-Give this exercise a try and you will have a book of creative ideas that will inject imagination and thoughtfulness into your relationship at every turn. (If you can't think of 12 things for a certain "like" or "love" 10 will do; 8 will do; even 6 will do as long as you tried your, yes you guessed it, BEST!

There is a saying that goes something like, "It's the thought that counts." Hogwash, I say it's the thought and the action that counts. This is not meant to be easy, but then again, for the right person it can be...Wink!